The Personality of your Child


The Personality of Your Child

Timid, vigorous, extreme or easy going, what kind of child do you have? Finding out your child’s Personality, will help you better understand what that child is all about.

Personality is the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual’s distinctive character. It can  be said to be a person’s nature, especially as it permanently affects their behavior. It is a set of traits that makes each of us unique, and a powerful factor in determining how we react to the world.

Every child has his or her distinctive personality that forms their behavior and determines how they react to real world situations. How your child reacts to everyday routines, transitions, unfamiliar situations, and new people is influenced by his personality.

Every Child no doubt possess a combination of traits that surprises and fascinates parents, especially when his/her strongest traits are often totally different from others. A child may express opposite traits, depending on time and place, expectations and experience. He may be bold and adventurous at times, yet exercise caution and good judgment when needed.

There isn’t any specific laid down formula for parenting, but having an understanding of different personality traits can help in your parenting journey.

There are good reasons for parents to want to know their Child’s personality. The knowledge of your Child’s personality can help you in the Child’s Academic Performance, Career Choice, Relationship and Growth. Parenting an introvert involves different skill sets and techniques than parenting an extrovert, and children with different personality traits will respond better to different motivations.

Psychologists and researchers generally look at five characteristics when considering personality traits These characteristics include:

Emotional Intensity

An emotion is a feature possessed by every human but is expressed differently. The difference in expression is based on personality. Some Kids show great intensity of expression and they can be regarded as ‘big reactors’. They might squeal at the top of their lungs when they’re happy, and shout, throw things, or hit when they’re angry. They always want to be on the go, exploring the world around them by crawling, running and attracted to large spaces. If your child is action oriented, you’ll probably know by the time he is walking. They’ll always want to be on the go, exploring the world around them. They love spaces that offer lots of opportunity for movement.

At the other end of the spectrum,are those considered to be mild. They are kids who are  satisfied to sit and play quietly, and may prefer exploring with their hands. They tend to take in the world by looking or listening. Their interest in the things around them can be every bit as strong as an active child’s, but they don’t feel the same need to be up and about. They tend to be quiet and rarely fuss, sleep more than average, and show their emotions with only slight changes in facial expression. They tend to take in the world by looking or listening.

Endurance Capacity

Endurance capacity for various kids vary. While some may be persistent at a task, some others give up at any slight challenge. A child with a high tolerance for frustration will keep trying until he gets his desires met. While one child may try over and over, a less persistent child may give up and cry or attempt another activity instead. It should be noted, that despite the variation of endurance capacity, such can be built over time. You can just need to find what motivates your Child.

Reaction to New People

This is a trait that is often noticed by parents early. Does he engage newcomers by smiling or cooling, or is he shy and hesitant around people he doesn’t know? Kids who are slow to warm tend to need time and support from trusted caregivers before they feel comfortable enough to interact.


Everyone’s personality is unique. As your child comes into his or her own, support the positive aspect of their personality by celebration and acceptance. Your responsibility is to nurture and groom your child. A Parent or teacher is like a farmer who does not make a plant grow, but ensures the right environment for growth.

In our next post, we would be discussing about the 16 personalities according to Meyers Brigg.

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