Molestation an unwanted predicament that occurs in our society.Child Molestation is a worldwide problem-affecting children of all ages and socioeconomic backgrounds. A predicament which remains almost unforgotten by the victims and thereby affecting them; emotionally, mentally and socially. As we teach our young children all sorts of way; like staying safe from hot things, watching carefully before crossing the road, staying careful of friends it is also important they are taught on body safety. The best way of protecting your child is teaching them about their bodies and how they can protect themselves.
A knowledge gap exists regarding the psychological outcomes for children who are abused during their early lives.
Here are some tips that can help you protect your Child
TALK ABOUT BODY PARTS EARLY.
Name body parts and talk about them early. Use proper names for body parts, or at least teach your child what the real words are for their body parts. Some young children are made to believe that their Vagina are called ‘’bottom’’ or “bum bum”. Feeling comfortable using these words and knowing what they mean can help a child talk clearly if something inappropriate has happened.
TEACH THEM THAT SOME BODY PARTS ARE PRIVATE.
Tell your child that their private parts are called ‘Private’ because they are not for everyone to see. Explain how their doctor can see them without their clothes because mommy and daddy are there with them and the doctor is checking their body. Tell your child that no one should touch their private parts and no one should ask them to touch someone else’s private parts. Explain to them that if such thing happens, they should tell an adult immediately if mom or dad is not available at that moment.3
3. TELL YOUR CHILD THAT BODY SECRETS ARE NOT OKAY
Most perpetrators will tell the child to keep the abuse a secret. This can be done in a friendly way, such as, “I love playing with you, but if you tell anyone else what we played they won’t let me come over again.” Or it can be a threat: “This is our secret. If you tell anyone I will tell them it was your idea and you will get in big trouble!” Tell your kids that no matter what anyone tells them, body secrets are not okay and they should always tell you if someone tries to make them keep a body secret.
4.TELL YOUR CHILD THAT NO ONE SHOULD TAKE PICTURES OF THEIR PRIVATE PARTS.
Parents should not miss this one. There is a completely sick world out there of pedophiles who love to take and trade pictures of naked children online. This is tragic and it puts your child at risk. Tell your kids that no one should ever take pictures of their private parts and if anyone does that to them, they must tell immediately.
5. TEACH YOUR CHILD HOW TO GET OUT OF SCARY OR UNCOMFORTABLE SITUATIONS.
Some children are uncomfortable with telling people “No”— especially older peers or adults. Tell them that it’s okay to tell an adult they have to leave if something that feels wrong is happening, and help give them words to get out of uncomfortable situations. Tell your child that if someone wants to see or touch private parts they can tell them that they need to leave to go the bathroom. That way it is easier for them to leave the presence of the predator without having to be forced to stay.
6.HAVE A CODE WORD YOUR CHILDREN CAN USE WHEN THEY FEEL UNSAFE.
As children get a bit older, you can give them a code word that they can use when they are feeling unsafe. This can be used at home, when there are guests in the house or when they are on a play date or a sleepover.
7.TELL YOUR CHILD THAT A BODY TOUCHES MIGHT TICKLE OR FEEL GOOD.
Many parents and books talk about “good touch and bad touch,” but this can be confusing because often these touches do not hurt or feel bad. I prefer the term “secret touch,” as it is a more accurate depiction of what might happen. Teach your children that these touches might feel good but that does not make it right or right.
8. Tell your child that these rules apply even with people they know and even with another child.
This is an important point to discuss with your child. When you ask a young child what a “bad guy” looks like, they will most likely describe a cartoon villain. You can say something like, “Mommy might touch your private parts when we are cleaning you or if you need to cream your body, but no one else should touch you there. Not friends, not aunties or uncles, not teachers or coaches. Even if you like them or think they are in charge, they should still not touch your private parts.”
In addition, one discussion is not enough. Find natural times to reiterate these messages, such as bath time or when they are running around naked. And please share this article with those you love and care about and help me spread the message of body safety!